Discipline

Discipline. Without it, you're one of the 80%+ - the failures in life. Remember, this is not my judgement on others - I have no right to judge. These people are failures by their own admission and definitions. If you were to ask them if they feel they have succeeded in life, or failed, they would readily confess to having failed, although they would, of course, blame factors outside of themselves for this failure. With discipline, you have a good chance of rising above the crowd and retiring early as a wealthy man or woman. Everything I write is aimed at preventing you from reaching retirement with nothing. If you reach retirement as a pauper dependant upon charity, having lived a life of quiet desperation, frustrated, never having achieved anything much of note, not really having had a good time (apart from the odd high point), never having dreamed, never beaten a real challenge, then your life is a failure by any standards, but certainly by your own. Of course, if you are happy in your powerlessness and poverty, then none of this matters. Are you a disciplined person, in general? There are hundreds of indicators of a disciplined mind, not one of which is essential, but put together, they start to add up to a pattern. Can you get up in the morning? Are your shoes clean, your hair and teeth brushed? Are your car and house tidy? Are your personal papers (gas bills, bank statements, etc.) filed in some sort of reasonable order? Do you turn out a good job of work, even when nobody is looking? I could think of five hundred more indicators, but you get the idea. It's up to you to look at your life and make an honest assessment of your level of discipline or lack of it. Again, I am not judging you. Live how you want to live, including in a pigsty, unwashed half the time - it's your life. But if you want a life of power and wealth, then I can guarantee you will not get it without some discipline. Discipline is vital. When I meet consultation clients face to face, I tell them I'm just a regular guy, and that's the truth. Yes, I have an education and a certain amount of common-sense. But I also have discipline. Often, the people sitting opposite me do not have discipline, or at least they haven't made it central to their lives because, heck, it takes discipline to be disciplined! I can see the lack of discipline in the way they dress, the way they sit, and the way they talk. What is Discipline? Well, I guess one definition is being strict with yourself. You know why discipline is important for a child or teenager, don't you? It's to keep them in line. It's to stop them getting out of hand - getting away with too much. Also, you discipline your children out of love, and not because you enjoy the power-trip (I hope!). Often, you hate to discipline your kids because it spoils their immediate gratification and enjoyment, doesn't it? But you do this because the long-term benefits and rewards vastly outweigh the immediate greedy, thoughtless and short-term gratification of their desires. Correct? I think so. So another definition might be 'gratification postponement.' Not eating the whole bowl of jello right now. Eating some and saving the rest for the next few days. Not because it's 'naughty' to eat all the jello. Not because it's 'wicked or sinful' to eat all the jello. It's because if you eat all the jello now, your enjoyment will be, say, ten units (8 for the one bowl, plus 16 for the rest of the jello, minus 6 for the sick feeling, minus 8 for the realization that you have no will-power!). If you have one bowl now, one tomorrow, and one the next day, you get 8+8+8 = 24 units of pleasure, plus 6 units for feeling smug about your strength of will. That's 30 units of pleasure compared with 10 units. I'm not fooling around with this jello analogy. This is exactly the way it works. Disciplined people save money. They don't spend every single penny they have in their pockets on goodies to consume right now, as fast as possible. They don't then rush out and borrow more money to buy more goodies to consume because they can't wait until next pay day. Such people are eating all the sweets in one sitting, then borrowing sweets from their friends so they can eat those too! What would you say to a child who did that? Why, what a spoiled and greedy child that would be, don't you think? One of the keys to a successful life (however you define it) is the ability known as 'gratification postponement.' The name speaks for itself and many people learn this ability and its advantages quite early on in life. At its most fundamental, it is the ability not to eat all the candy today, so that you will have some left over for tomorrow. As you grow up, it manifests itself in several ways. For example: 1. As a child: Your ability to delay playtime until you have completed all of your homework. 2. As a teenager: The ability to postpone the advantages of cash in your pocket right now from some mundane job. Instead you do further study so that you might enjoy a higher salary later on. Every hour of study you do gears up through your life to an effective rate of $1,000 for each study hour - but paid later, not right now. 3. As an adult: The ability not to spend every penny of the money you earn on goodies, but instead to save a percentage so that it might grow and you can enjoy more goodies later on. Before I proceed, let me tell you there is nothing ascetic in what I am describing. The point is not to deny yourself forever and always postpone pleasure, possibly even until you die. That is ridiculous. No, the point is to enjoy today with all of its richness and pleasure, but to master the trick of gratification postponement for a percentage of life's pleasures. And this has only one, entirely selfish aim - to enjoy more of life's pleasures tomorrow. I want to be very clear on that point. Many religions preach that you should deny yourself pleasure because it distracts you from your true task which is to sacrifice yourself for others and for God. Your reward, they say, will come when you die. Sorry, but that's just too long to wait, and too late to collect it. For example, I consider the savings habit to be an absolute give-away sign of success or potential success. To save takes discipline - the discipline not to spend every penny you earn, but instead to put a little by. Most people do not save. They cannot manage the trick of postponing the gratification that the immediate use of their money would bring, consequently, they are always broke and struggling for cash. Disciplined people don't save money out of altruism or because they are being good little boys or girls. They do it from a position of 'enlightened self-interest' or selfishness, by another name. It's important that you realize this. You're doing it for you, nobody else. They know that if they take some pleasure now (spend some money), then postpone the rest of the pleasure for a later day, they will get far more pleasure in total than if they spent all the money in one go. Everyone knows this. It's something we all learn at about age eight. It's part of the curriculum taught at the 'University of the Obvious!' Disciplined people apply this knowledge - it takes will-power not to spend the lot right now - undisciplined people just can't keep their hands out of the cookie-jar, and that's the plain truth. Modest saving - just 10% of your wealth - means you can retire with a quarter of a million in the bank. Nice. Not saving means you retire penniless and with about five hundred dollar's worth of useless junk. What a difference! All successful people score highly on their ability to delay gratification, and research backs this up as illustrated in Daniel Goleman's remarkable book, Emotional Intelligence, if you're interested in further reading. It's time to become your own drill sergeant.

Your-Anti-To-Do-List

Your Anti-To-Do List By Craig Ballantyne The other night I had a dream. But it was not a good one. Perhaps it was my restless legs and weary body from the hours of exercise video filming I had done earlier in the day that brought upon this devilish dream. In the dream I was giving a seminar. It wasn't a very big seminar as there were maybe one hundred people in the room, and all of the attendees were there to learn about building their business. As I finished my presentation, the group discussion turned to heated debate on politics, and suddenly a fight broke out amongst the audience members. The dream flashed forward to a colleague informing me that a video of the seminar brawl had been posted on Youtube and that I now had a PR nightmare on my hands. And that was it. Like I said, pretty strange, even for my weird dreams. The morning after this dream I woke up and started thinking. In our Early to Rise business, we had been in talks to participate in a seminar in March of next year. Suddenly I realized there was no good reason for us to participate in the event. Not only did I not have a good reason to speak at the event, I quickly found five good reasons NOT to do the seminar. And so later that day after discussing this with Matt Smith and our Chief Operations Officer, Jeff Schneider, we decided to cancel our involvement. Thank goodness that my subconscious brought this to my attention. This decision to cancel the seminar has taken a large load of stress off my shoulders. After all, 2013 is already shaping up to be my busiest year ever with the ETR $100K Transformation Contest and other big projects in my fitness business. I didn't need an unnecessary seminar adding to the workload - and trust me, if you've ever tried to fill, film, and deliver a seminar, you know that they take an extraordinary amount of work. So I've added that to my NOT To-Do List. That's something that you should have, too. After all, chances are that you are like me, driven and ambitious, wanting to grab the world by its tail to meet your greatest potential. But that attitude can get us into a bit of trouble sometimes. We bite off more than we can chew, as the old saying goes, and we end up more stressful than successful. But it doesn't need to be like that. From big commitments to every day time wasters, our lives can become a lot more efficient and productive when we follow the rules on our Not To-Do List as strictly as our To-Do List. Let's start your list by eliminating time wasters that you must cut out from your daily schedule. Here the activities that have made my Not To-Do List. First, I don't check email before lunch. Not only does this help me get more done during my morning "magic time" hours (the period of the day when I'm most productive), but it also prevents me from having my day ruined. When I was younger and much more addicted to email, I would often start the day by checking my email - sometimes before I even rolled out of bed. Most days the email news would be good, but on the odd occasion there would be trouble. Perhaps someone hadn't liked an article of mine, and had written in with some negative feedback. Listen, no matter how strong your mental make-up, it's hard not to get riled up by criticism - particularly email criticism, because upset people can really fire off some nasty comments. Reading that email would ruin my day. I'd be forever fuming and constantly thinking of smug replies and witty retorts (that I would never send, of course) and my brain would be taken down a rabbit hole of wasted energy and unproductive hours. One of our Virtual Mastermind Members, Dr. Kevin, found this out the hard way recently, and posted this to the forum: "I just realized WHY you should NOT check email first thing in the morning. Yes, part of it has to do with being productive, but there's a much bigger reason. I made this discovery after checking my email one morning and getting a not-so-nice email. This email messed up my mental state for the rest of the morning. It was very hard to snap out of it, leaving me unproductive. You live and learn - now I know why (checking your email in the morning should be on your NOT To-Do List)." Be very careful with what you let into your mind in the mornings. You might need to add "Checking the News," "Answering Voice Mail," or "Having Meetings" to your morning Not To-Do List and move those all to a later point in the day after you've finished a big task. Now I understand that won't work for everyone, but you simply must control what you can. In addition to checking email, other behaviors on my daily Not To-Do List include: Getting into online confrontations Sleeping in Skipping workouts Mindlessly surfing the Internet Gossiping All of these are unacceptable behaviors and they are not to be done at any time. Since formally adding them to my Not To-Do List, I've managed to be much more successful at avoiding them. Just important as the daily Not To-Do List are the long-term Not To-Dos. For me, these include: Entering into unprofitable, time-consuming projects and relationships Scheduling unnecessary travel Getting involved in the technological work on my websites Hanging around negative, gossiping people Once you make yourself aware of what you want to avoid, it becomes much easier to do so. Unfortunately, most people make the mistake of filling their day with wrong activities. It's almost like an addiction. Perhaps that's why Dan Kennedy once said, "People's problems are their hobbies." But if you want to be productive and successful, you can't let your worst behaviors become your habits. If you find yourself in a rut, doing the same wrong things over and over again, then you must take on the task of spending a good deal of time in introspection. An hour or two of self-reflection on how you spend your time can save you months of frustration. And it often starts with building a Not To-Do List. While you don't have to write down a Not To-Do List every day, it sure helps to have one in your mind. That's also why creating the "Rules for Your Life" is so important. You need a personal philosophy to keep you on track. By having a well thought out, clear and concise Not To-Do List, you'll have a better chance of sticking to the right things on your To-Do list and thus making the exponential progress you are capable of. Choose your work wisely.

The Problem With Happiness

The Problem With Happiness By Alex Green Our nation has a happiness fetish. Each year, publishers print thousands of books on the subject. Talk show hosts offer advice from psychologists and therapists. Magazine covers promise "The Short-Cut to Happiness" or "The 7 Secrets of Wedded Bliss." You might reasonably wonder why the market is so large. A Pew Research Center poll reports that almost 85 percent of Americans say they are happy or very happy. Yet millions want to be happier still. And they feel they could be, if only they pursued it a little more ardently. Except... that won't work. Happiness is a by-product. It is achieved indirectly, by producing something beautiful or useful or by making someone else happy. The search for happiness, it turns out, is one of the chief sources of unhappiness. Take a look around. Much of the economic misery we see today is due to the unbridled pursuit of bigger houses, fancier cars and more exorbitant trips. The lure of consumer culture and an obsession with more is precisely what keeps so many from contentment. The Stoics argued that happiness results not from pursuing affluence and status but rather virtue and wisdom. Pythagoras, the sixth-century BC philosopher and mathematician, asked that his followers take time, before going to sleep each night, to pose three questions: What have I done? Where have I failed myself? What responsibility have I not fulfilled? If we fixate instead on gratifying all our desires, we become superficial, acquisitive, deluded or foolish. The headlong rush for happiness can also blind us to serious problems or numb us to the pain of others. After all, every life is lived between the poles of joy and sadness. Laughter and love are part of it. But so are pain and suffering. To deny the tragic aspects of the world is to suppress a large part of what it means to be human. Playwright Tennessee Williams understood this. Asked in an interview to define happiness, he replied, "Insensitivity, I guess." Great artists often try to awaken us - or stir our conscience - by reminding us of the more doleful aspects of life. In response to the 16th Street Church bombing in 1963, an attack by the Ku Klux Klan in Birmingham that killed four girls, saxophonist John Coltrane wrote Alabama, a blues-based instrumental that expresses anguish and sorrow more eloquently than words. Poetry, too, can inspire us with its sorrowful realizations. Seventeenth-century British poet Robert Herrick famously wrote, "Gather ye rosebuds while ye may/ Old Time is still a-flying; / And this same flower that smiles today / Tomorrow will be dying." Shakespeare captured the same sentiment in Cymbeline: "Golden lads and girls all must / As chimney-sweepers, come to dust." History shows that men and women of genius are often melancholic. Consider writers like Ernest Hemingway and Virginia Woolf. Composers like Rossini and Mahler. Statesmen like Lincoln and Churchill. Artists like Michelangelo and Gauguin. Philosophers like Schopenhauer and Kierkegaard. In 1890, Vincent Van Gogh, overcome by feelings of worthlessness, walked out into the southern French countryside and shot himself in the gut with a pistol. Just 37, he died from the wound two days later. Yet in the previous two years - and despite his bleakness - he completed more than two hundred paintings, many of them masterpieces. Handel, after years spent at the top of the musical world, fell into terrible poverty, ill health and deep depression. Yet from the depths of profound despair, he completed his greatest work, The Messiah. Beethoven raged against advancing deafness and his own finitude, yet created immortal works during this period, including his Fifth symphony, his only opera, Fidelio, his late string quartets and the Ninth symphony with its triumphant Ode to Joy. Not all innovators are melancholy, of course, and not all melancholy souls are innovative. And I don't mean to romanticize clinical depression, an often-debilitating illness. But there can be no joy without sorrow. No sunrise without the night. Periods of unhappiness are natural and even valuable. How are we to measure our best moments except against those that are not? Plus, contentment often saps our motivation. Dissatisfaction is the great spur to progress. Imagine the innovations we would lack today if we were satisfied with quill pens, horse-drawn carriages, or the "evil spirits" theory of disease. Today millions equate happiness with money. But studies show that once people are lifted out of poverty, their happiness is not dependent on income. More often reported levels of well-being are a combination of genetics, health, circumstances and coping skills. Happiness results when our aspirations are being fulfilled and we are optimistic about the future, when we are developing our capabilities or helping others develop theirs. In short, we are happiest when happiness itself is not the goal. Contemporary philosopher Robert Nozick writes that "We want experiences, fitting ones, of profound connection with others, of deep understanding of natural phenomena, of love, of being profoundly moved by music or tragedy, or doing something new and innovative, experiences very different from the bounce and rosiness of the happy moments." Of all the prescriptions for happiness, perhaps the least helpful one is the now-fashionable idea that you can defeat the blues by "paying attention to yourself." Nothing could be further from the truth. The happiest individuals are invariably those whose ordinary, everyday mode of living is being busy and unconcerned with self. That doesn't mean sacrificing your interests for someone else's. It only means asking not just "what would it take to make me happy?" but also "What limits should I set on this pursuit?" "How should I weigh my own happiness against that of others?" And "What else matters aside from happiness?" Life is also about education, work, courage, honor, empathy, and resilience in the face of hardship. Real contentment comes from a feeling that your life is worthwhile, that it is dissolved into something meaningful and great. That leads to gratitude. And gratitude, it turns out, is an indispensable part of happiness.

Making of Politician

Hi….I will be away till 26th …but before I do that I send you a chuckle!! A Country preacher......had a teenage son, and it was getting time the boy should give some thought to choosing a profession. Like many young Men his age, the boy didn't really know what he wanted to do, and he didn't seem too concerned about it. One day, while the boy was away at school, his father decided to try an experiment. He went into the boy's room and placed on his study table four objects.. 1. A Bible.....? 2. A silver dollar.....? 3. A bottle of whiskey.....? 4. And a Playboy magazine.....? 'I'll just hide behind the door,' the old preacher said to himself. 'When he comes home from school today, I'll see which object he picks up. If it's the Bible, he's going to be a preacher like me, and what a blessing that would be! If he picks up the dollar, he's going to be a business man, and that would be okay, too. But if he picks up the bottle, he's going to be a no-good drunken bum, and Lord, what a shame that would be. And worst of all if he picks up that magazine he's going to be a skirt-chasing womanizer.' The old man waited anxiously, and soon heard his son's foot-steps as he entered the house whistling and headed for his room. The boy tossed his books on the bed, and as he turned to leave the room he spotted the objects on the table.. With curiosity in his eye, he walked over to inspect them. Finally, he picked up the Bible and placed it under his arm. He picked up the silver dollar and dropped into his pocket. He uncorked the bottle and took a big drink, while he admired this month's centerfold. 'Lord have mercy,' the old preacher disgustedly whispered. He's going to be a politician! -- Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN WELL

Teach Your Children Well: How to Develop Successful Kids - Part One By Mark Morgan Ford Today's essay was written specifically for people who have young children or grandchildren. But looking over it now, I see that it should be of interest to anyone who wants to become a better, more productive person. When I was a young father, I wanted my young children to be very good at everything they did. I wanted them to be very good students, very good athletes, very good thinkers, etc. Although they never took a great deal of interest in sports, they did well enough in school and became bright and athletic thinkers. By the time they had become young men, my desire for them to excel at everything had evaporated. And in its place was something else: pride and satisfaction in knowing that they had become independent and kind. Many parents, I believe, experience the same shift. When their children are small, they want to see them excel because they believe that childhood performance is an indicator of future success. But as time passes, they come to have a more realistic view of maturation. One of the most important recognitions is that the most important stages of childhood development are all marked by the need to separate in some way from their parents. This makes perfect sense when you consider us as creatures of evolution. When our children are helpless, our instinct is to nurture and protect them. As they grow older, they acquire habits (biting the nipples that feed them, breaking free of the hand that holds them, discovering music their parents abhor, etc.) that promote independence. This is as it should be. A mentally healthy parent learns to accept and eventually desire his children's independence. Encouraging Co-dependence But there are parents who can't let go. They encourage dependence in their adult children by paying their bills or trying to remain "best friends." They believe themselves to be good parents because they are always "there" for their kids. What they are really doing is making their children less able to take care of themselves. Such behavior is unhealthy for both the parents and the children. It circumscribes the parents' lives to a close orbit around their children. And it encourages a habit of dependency in their children that makes them less capable of independent action. Kindness As for kindness: I never consciously wanted my children to be kind when they were young, but I suppose I expected it. When they were rude to their friends or their elders, I chastised them. But I never taught them to be kind. Still, I was delighted when I saw them, as adults, acting kindly toward their older relatives and less fortunate strangers. It made me proud. Independence and kindness are very important human qualities. To see them exist in your adult children is a wonderful experience. Writing about this got me thinking: If I could start over again, what qualities and skills would I encourage in my children? Excellence in particular skills would not be on my list. If one of my kids took up a new skill, such as speaking Spanish or playing the French horn, I wouldn't care whether he mastered it. But what I would want for sure is that my children become competent at life's most important skills. Smaller Skills Then there are the smaller skills. I'm talking about skills that aren't vital to success but that are, nonetheless, helpful in certain social situations. You may find some of what I'm about to say to be ridiculous, but I will try my best to persuade you that these smaller things matter. I would have taught my children to sing and dance. Why? Because singing and dancing are very important social skills. Most of the time we don't need them. But when we do at a wedding or party they can come in very handy. Singing and dancing are often considered natural talents. But they both can be learned. And the earlier a child begins to take lessons, the better and quicker he will learn. Another one is good manners. Having good manners is something rarely talked about these days. It is considered quaint and old-fashioned by many people. But it is extremely important. It is the grease that makes all social transactions go smoothly. It is enormously helpful in business, and it is just as important in personal affairs. By good manners, I mean primarily speaking with consideration and courtesy. But I also mean knowing how to introduce yourself, how to say thank you, and how to eat properly in public. When you have good manners, you can still express yourself honestly, and you can still persuade people that you are right. You can still be the person you want to become, but you will do so more easily because you won't be unnecessarily offending people along the way. I realize I haven't said anything about teaching your kids to be kind. I suppose I didn't because you can't actually teach your kids to be kind. If you are kind, they will be kind too. If you are not a kind person, there is nothing you can do or say to make them kind. So be kind. Reading Intelligently Next on the list would be reading. Learning how to read well is much more than just learning literacy or learning how to interpret clusters of letters. Reading is the skill of consuming information and accessing stories intelligently. By "intelligently," I mean analytically. On one level, you are taking in data, but on another, you are analyzing. You can't read at this higher level unless you have done a great deal of reading as a child. As I said, we encouraged our children to read first by depriving them of live television and videogames and then by finding books they enjoyed reading. It didn't matter what sort of books, because our goal was to develop the skill of reading at an early age. Later on, we encouraged them to read good books. And eventually, they did. Depriving your children of TV and video games may seem draconian by today's standards. But it had a marvellously positive effect on our children. They all became active and voracious readers. And instead of wasting time shooting down aliens, they were living in their imaginations and learning. Many parents use these modern contrivances to pacify their children. And pacify them they do. Watching TV or playing video games is a passive activity. But reading intelligently is active. Nature has designed us in such a way that we learn more when we are in active mode. Allowing your children to passively consume most of their "information" is a terrible way to treat them. It's a form of passive child abuse. The Skill of Persuasion Another important social skill that I'd recommend is the skill of rhetoric; knowing how to argue a point or persuade someone that your idea has value. I learned this skill from my parents who loved to argue, and our children learned it from my siblings and me, who still do. There are formal ways to learn to argue, like taking debate class or being on a debate team. But your children will learn rhetoric best if you simply make it a habit to debate ideas when you are together. It will add to your children's skills immeasurably. And you will never have a dull moment when you get together in later years. If you can teach your children these skills, there is no doubt they will be equipped to lead independent and fulfilling lives.

WEIGHT NO BAR, FAT WOMAN MORE SEXY

BIGGER’S BETTER: A new study contradicts earlier findings that obesity curbed sex New York: If you think overweight women have less sex than skinny types, think again, for a new study has suggested that it’s the other way round. Earlier studies indicated that obesity curbs sex. But, now researchers in the US have found that fat women have more sex than those with normal weight as one’s body mass does not affect one’s sexual desire. They have based their findings on an analysis of data on more than 7,000 women collected in the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth, that looked at the relationship between body mass index and sexual orientation, age of first intercourse, number of partners and frequency of intercourse. “Our analysis demonstrated that obese and overweight women do not differ significantly in some of the objective measures of sexual behaviour as compared to women of normal weight,” said lead researcher Bliss Kaneshiro. Kaneshiro of Hawaii University said the data showed that overweight women were more likely to report having sexual intercourse with a man, even when researchers controlled for age, race and type of residence. Ninety-two per cent of overweight women reported having a history of sexual intercourse with a man, as opposed to 87% of women with a normal body mass index (BMI), according to the survey. “These results were unexpected and we don’t really know why this is the case. This study indicates that all women deserve diligence in counselling on unintended pregnancy and STD prevention, regardless of BMI,” Kaneshiro said. Researchers suspect the stereotype could mean overweight women get different messages than thinner women from physicians regarding pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease prevention, and that their sexual behavior might therefore vary. “Some medical practitioners may not do appropriate follow-up with women who are overweight; they might assume they aren’t having sex unless they are told otherwise,” said Oregon State University Professor Marie Harvey, a specialist in women’s sexual and reproductive health issues. The survey relied on selfreports, however, and other studies have found that people often lie in sex surveys. The results were detailed in the September issue of the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology. A different study in 2006 concluded that obesity, as well as smoking, does curb sex.

why we need friends?

We need friends for many reasons, all throughout the four seasons. We need friends to comfort us when we are sad, and to have fun with us when we are glad. We need friends to give us good advice. We need someone we can count on to treat us nice. We need friends because we are social in nature and having friends makes us feel secure. We need friends to remember us once we have passed sharing memories that will always last. That's why I need YOU! FRIENDSHIP DOESNT NEED EVERYDAY CONVERSATION, DOENST ALWAYS NEED TOGETHERNESS. AS LONG AS THE RELATIONSHIP IS KEPT IN THE HEART, TRUE FRIENDS NEVER GO APART. ''The Best Frn'd Is 1Who Will Never Expect Instead Of Giving Something'' or The Best Friend Is 1Who Nos All Abt U N Still Loves U. i.e. FRN'DSHIP IS A RAINBOW BETWEEN TWO HEARTSWhy w e

Friendship day Poems

Friendship Day Poem... A friend is somebody Who knows you and likes you Exactly the way that you are... Someone who's special And so close in thought That no distance can ever seem far. A friend understands you without any words, Stands by you when nothing goes right... And willingly talks over problems with you Till they somehow just vanish from sight. And whether you're neighbors or live miles apart, A word from a friend gives a lift To your heart and spirit that shows you once more Why friendship is life's dearest gift! Friendship Quotes.. Friends are God's way of taking care of us. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. A friend is someone who reaches out for your hand... and touches your heart. A friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find but lucky to have. Friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly. A friend is someone who walks in when the whole world has walked out.

Happiness

It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. ~Mother Teresa When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. Helen Keller Happiness does not consist in pastimes and amusements but in virtuous activities. Aristotle Happiness resides not in posessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul. Democritus The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts; therefore guard accordingly. Marcus Aurelius Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities. Aldous Huxley There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions—the little soon-forgotten charities of a kiss, a smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment in the disguise of a playful raillery, and the countless other infinitessimals of pleasurable thought and genial feeling. Samuel Taylor Coleridge The man is happiest who lives from day to day and asks no more, garnering the simple goodness of life. Euripides Happiness consists in activity: such is the constitution of our nature; it is a running stream, and not a stagnant pool. John M. Good Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling. Margaret Lee Runbeck A light heart lives long. William Shakespeare Men spend their lives in anticipations,—in determining to be vastly happy at some period when they have time. But the present time has one advantage over every other—it is our own. Past opportunities are gone, future have not come. We may lay in a stock of pleasures, as we would lay in a stock of wine; but if we defer the tasting of them too long, we shall find that both are soured by age. Charles Caleb Colton Who is the happiest of men? He who values the merits of others, and in their pleasure takes joy, even as though 'twere his own. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe The chances are that you have already come to believe that happiness is unattainable. But men have attained it. And they have attained it by realising that happiness does not spring from the procuring of physical or mental pleasure, but from the development of reason and the adjustment of conduct to principles. from How to Live on 24 Hours a Day, by Arnold Bennett Happiness is not a matter of events, it depends upon the tides of the mind. Alice Meynell Fortify yourself with contentment, for this is an impregnable fortress. Epictetus Happiness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances. Benjamin Franklin There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying things which are beyond the power of our will. Epictetus I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than attempting to satisfy them. John Stuart Mills You're happiest while you're making the greatest contribution. Robert F. Kennedy Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action. Benjamin Disraeli Great effort from great motives is the best definition of a happy life. William Ellery Channing The rays of happiness, like those of light, are colorless when unbroken. Henry W. Longfellow Happiness grows at our own firesides, and is not to be picked in strangers' gardens. Douglas Jerrold Happiness is where we find it, but rarely where we seek it. J. Petit Senn To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others. Albert Camus The only way on earth to multiply happiness is to divide it. Paul Scherer Happiness depends upon ourselves. Aristotle Try to be happy in this present moment, and put not off being so to a time to come,—as though that time should be of another make from this which has already come and is ours. Thomas Fuller Knowledge of what is possible is the beginning of happiness. George Santayana No man is happy who does not think himself so. Publilius Syrus Our minds are as different as our faces: we are all traveling to one destination; --happiness; but few are going by the same road. Charles Caleb Colton

Are you Married?

Are you married? If Yes; Welcome to the school called marriage, A school where you will never graduate, A school without a break or a free period, A school where no one is allowed to drop out, A school which you will have to attend every day of your life, A school where there is no sick leave or holidays. A school founded by God: 1.On the foundation of love, 2.The walls are made out of trust, 3.The door made out of acceptance, 4.The windows made out of understanding 5.The furniture made out of blessings 6.The roof made out of faith Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal, God is the Principal Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside, remember this school is the safest place to be. Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. Don't forget the C-word-Communicate, Communicate, communicate to your classmate and to the Principal. If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate. Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So take it as a challenge and work on it together. Do not forget to study, study, study your Bible (the main textbook in this school), Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to. When tempted to quit find courage and continue. Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear. But still it is a school better than any other, It is one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lessons of the day. Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject, After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it. To be loved is a good thing, but to love is a greatest privilege of them all. Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse When tempted to raise your voice let love hold your mouth Let love overthrow pride and selfishness and let it reign in your house Do not hold back any love from him/her. Don't meet him/her halfway but go all the way. Love as though that's your only hope for your survival, and it is My friend, listen to the voice of wisdom as found in the main Textbook. If not yet married, you can keep the knowledge for future use. Cheers and keep schooling!!!

10 windows applications

op 10 Windows Applications 10 Camfrog Video Chat Launched in 2003, Camfrog Video Chat has pioneered a number of innovations in instant messaging over the past decade. Camfrog users can chat with text, audio, and/orvideo, and can directly share picture files of up to 100MB. Most distinctively, Camfrog lets users join thousands of public chat rooms to chat and interact with other people. Camfrog Video Chat received 14,155,432 downloads in 2010, making it the 10th most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 9 TeamViewer This screen-sharing and file-transferring utility makes it easy for you to cede control of your screen to a helpful IT assistant anywhere in the world…or take over Uncle Bob's computer to clean it after he loads up 39 forms of adware. Logging in to TeamViewer gives you access codes and passwords that let you easily set up a shared connection for remote support, presentation, file transfer, or VPN. Completely free for personal use, the program vaulted up the Most Popular list in 2010 and may be headed for an even higher rank next year. TeamViewer received 15,722,955 downloads in 2010, making it the ninth most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 8 WinRAR What's a RAR file, you ask? Well, it's a roshal archive file, of course. Originally developed in 1995, Eugene Roshal's compression software, WinRAR, has emerged from back channels in recent years to become the most popular archiving software on the site. The term "WinRAR" has even become Internet slang for "winner." TheRAR file became popular with multimedia users for its better compression ratio for certain music and photo file types, and the shareware WinRAR application itself has evolved into full-featured archive software. Despite the explosion in popularity, WinRAR is still developed by Eugene Roshal. His brother Alexander runs the business side of Win.rar GMBH. WinRAR received 19,431,244 downloads in 2010, making it the eighth most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 7 Advanced SystemCare Free Formerly known as Advanced WindowsCare, this suite of utilities from IObit offers scads of options for clearing out the detritus that can accumulate on Windows machines. Registry cleaning was the original focus of the app, but the program also removes other junk files and detects and removes spyware. A particularly helpful feature for some is Smart RAM, which lets users monitor and manage their RAM usage. The program also lets users scan for hijacked Windows settings, and the premium version adds scheduled scans to the mix. Advanced SystemCare Free received 19,544,950 downloads in 2010, making it the seventh most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 6 Ad-Aware Free Internet Security Originally released in 1999, Lavasoft's Ad-Aware software has achieved an indelible presence on the Download.com site, immediately attracting users with its straightforward approach to detecting and removing adware. The flagship software was No. 1 on CNET Download.com's Most Popular list for a good while in the 2000s. The platform has expanded in recent years and now offers three main versions of its original protection–Ad-Aware Free Internet Security, Ad-Aware Pro Internet Security, and Ad-Aware Total Security–as well as variants for businesses and gamers. Ad-Aware Free Internet Security received 20,375,957 downloads in 2010, making it the sixth most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 5 Malwarebytes Anti-Malware As the new kid on the security block, Malwarebytes' Anti-Malware has made a big splash in a short time. Released in January 2008, the free software has already become one of the "go-to" tools of savvy Windows users. It was designed to find malware and rogue software that othersecurity programs often miss, and based on its growing user base and adoption as a backup security service, it seems to be very successful so far. Comprehensive definition files and speedy, accurate scans kept the program in the top 10 of the Most Popular list for most of the year. Malwarebytes Anti-Malware received 25,799,006 downloads in 2010, making it the fifth most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 4 YouTube Downloader It may not look like much, but this niche application certainly does what it says on the tin. YouTube Downloader transfers video from the YouTube Web site to your local drive, then converts those videos into formats you can enjoy on your desktop, notebook, iPad, phone, or whatever fancy device you've got that playsvideo . The program stays in sync with changes to the YouTube service, updating quickly after major site updates. The simple and effective nature of the app has made it a recent mainstay on the Most Popular list. YouTube Downloader received 30,068,100 downloads in 2010, making it the fourth most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 3 Avira AntiVir Personal Free Antivirus The first product from the big A-list top 3 security apps is Avira AntiVir Free Personal Antivirus. Created in Germany back in 1988, Avira's scheduling features led the way for user customization, and now the program allows users to tweak it even more to get a personal solution that works for them. The Premium version of Aviraadds useful features such as e-mail scanning and a Webguard system for detecting malicious Web sites, but tons of users find that the free version suits them fine. Avira AntiVir Free Personal Antivirus received 42,165,868 downloads in 2010, making it the third most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 2 Avast Free Antivirus The longtime music-player look might be gone, but the reliable protection of Avast antivirus software keeps going strong. Avast has been around for more than 20 years now, and it has been a big user favorite on Download.com for most of those years. Known for providing a strong level ofsecurity on Windows machines for free, Avast took on a whole new look in the beginning of 2010 with version 5, along with new community features that take advantage of the power of its huge user base. Through the year, Avast challenged AVG for the top spot on the Most Popular list. Avast Free Antivirus received 52,648,408 downloads in 2010, making it the second most popular Windows software on CNET Download.com. 1 AVG Anti-Virus Free Edition AVG Anti-Virus Free Edition is the biggest program in the CNET Download.com universe right now, commanding well over a million downloads every week. It has become a ubiquitous presence on Windows machines around the world. AVG started out in Czechoslovakia as a small program from Grisoft named Anti-Virus Guard, and it has slowly and surely become one of the global leaders in thesecurity industry. Although it has a bevy of worthy competitors in the security category, AVG reigned supreme in 2010 and shows little signs of slowing down.

HEART OF A WOMAN

Heart of a Woman They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous. They fight for what they believe in. They stand up against injustice. They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution. They go without new shoes so their children can have them. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards. They are happy when they hear about a birth or a new marriage. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes. They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin! Women do more than just give birth. They bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. Women have a lot to say and a lot to give. ~Author Unknown~

SOME NOSTALGIC MOMENTS

15th August 1947, First News Paper of INDEPENDENT INDIA… DAIRY MILK CHOCOLATE 1905 TO 1999… Stalin, Lenin and Trotsky… An Awesome paint of Leonardo da vinci… The front page of the April 16, 1912 evening edition of the Boston Globe, detailing the Titanic Disaster is shown… The Elephant Rock - 1858… Star Cinema ( now at Pakistan ) 1943… Shooting-the-mgm-lion-logo-in-1924… Incomplete Howrah bridge 1935… Howrah Bridge under construction... 1942... HOWRAH BRIDGE… Calcutta bus stand near Howrah bridge, most likely on the Howrah station side of the Hooghly River 1944… view of the hoogly river at 1880… Last time Netaji was arrested by British police… A rare one of Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose and his wife Eimilie Shenkl… Gandhi ji with his wife Kasturba Gandhi… the crown of India… Maharani of Jaipur Gayatri Devi - 1940's… The last train , Dhaka to Calcutta!!! Taken in 1947… British India and Afghanistan border - 1934… Gandhi-ji with Netaji 1932… Jawaharlal Nehru, Bhulabhai Desai, and Rajendra Prasad (Center) at the AICC Session, April 1939… Chatim talay gurudeber janmodin 1937… Rabindranath Thakur… Sharat Chandra with Surendranath… Bagha Jatin… deho rakhchen thakur ramkrishna paramahansa deb… rare picture of the family of maa sarada devi… 1968 shayam bazar more… Family of Indira Gandhi… July 1983 Indira Gandhi felicitates Kapil Dev, captain of Indian cricket team… Satyajit Roy only 22 years old , picture taken at 1943… Asha, Mukesh , Lata , Kishore & Manna… rare picture of Kishore kumar & Bhupen Hazarika… awesome picture of RK, dilip sahab and Dev anand… Amit ji with his mom Teji bachan.... Jaya with her son & daughter… Final Journey to Heaven.....Bhupen Hazarika… C. V. Raman - The Great Indian Physicist Sir Chandrasekhara Venkata Raman, FRS (7 November 1888 – 21 November 1970) was an Indian physicist. He was the recipient of the Nobel Prize for Physics in 1930 for the discovery that when light traverses a transparent material, some of the light that is deflected changes in wavelength. This phenomenon is now called Raman scattering and is the result of the Raman effect… The original picture of Jhansi Rani Laxmi Bai. This picture has been taken by German photographer Hoffman 160 years ago… This was how the Taj Mahal was protected from bomber jets in 1942 during world war. It was covered with huge scaffold, to make it look like a stockpile of bamboo and misguide bombers. The covering is still incomplete in this photo. The whole of Taj Mahal was covered but this picture shows only the main dome covered. The govt. didn’t allow any photographers later to shoot the final scaffold cover. During the India-Pakistan war in 1971, it was protected by covering it with a green cloth and making it almost invisible i.e. camouflaged within the greenery around it. Even in 2001, after the Sep 11 attack, Archaeological Survey of India took up the precautionary measure to cover it with cloth and it took them more than 20 days to do that!!

1.jpg 2.jpg 3.jpg 4.jpg 5.jpg 6.jpg 7.jpg 8.jpg 9.jpg 10.jpg 11.jpg 12.jpg 13.jpg 14.jpg 15.jpg 16.jpg 17.jpg 18.jpg 19.jpg 20.jpg 21.jpg 22.jpg 23.jpg 24.jpg 25.jpg 26.jpg 27.jpg 28.jpg 29.jpg 30.jpg HUMAN BEINGS ARE SUCH SMALL CREATURES, AREN'T THEY? SO DON'T BE TOO WORRIED ABOUT EVERYTHING, TREASURE EVERY MOMENT, DO WHAT YOU WISH TO DO..... BROADEN YOUR VIEW, BROADEN YOUR MIND, DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE BOTHERING YOU, DO TREASURE YOUR LOVE, LIVE SAFELY AND PEACEFULLY, ALWAYS BE HAPPY TO WELCOME THE COMING OF THE NEW DAY....... ENJOY THE SUNSHINE .. ALWAYS LOOK AT THE BRIGHTER SIDE OF THINGS.....

TOP CRICKETERS' EARNING IN 60 YEARS

Top cricketers' earnings over 60 years... Very interesting 1950s Playing Fee per Test Rs. 250 Brand endorsements: None, except G. S. Ramchand, the first cricketer to endorse a brand. But he was paid no cash for his modeling. 1960s Playing Fee per Test Rs. 400. Brand endorsements: Mansur Ali Khan Pataudi for jewellery, Taj Mahal Tea. Farokh Engineer, who got Rs.25 for Brylcream ad. 1970s Test Fee Rs. 500 - 700. ODIs Rs. 500 per match. Brand Endorsements: Sunil Gavaskar, Eknath Solkar for Philips cycles. An ad fetched roughly Rs. 2,000.00 1980s PLAYING FEE PER TEST RS.7,500.00 ODIs Rs. 5,000 per match Brand Endorsements: Sunil Gavaskar, Kapil Dev for BSA SLR cyccles, Palmolive cream. An ad fetched about Rs.3,000.00 1990s Playing fee per Test Rs. 3 lakh ODIs Rs.50,000 per match. Brand Endorsement: Kapil Dev, Sachin for Boost, Hero Honda. An ad fetched about Rs.50,000. 2000s Annual Contract: Grade A Rs. 1 crore Grade B Rs. 50 lakh Grade C Rs. 25 lakh Playing fee per Test Rs. 4 - 7 lakh ODIs Rs. 1.8 - 4 lakh T20 Rs. 1 - 2lakh Brand Endorsements: Sachin Tendulkar Rs.180 crore deal with Iconic in 2006. M.S.Dhoni Rs.210 crore deal with Rhiti Sports Management in 2010. RUN MACHINES OR MONEY MACHINES?? M. S. DHONI BCCI annual contract Rs.1 crore Match fee Rs.1.86 crore Endorsements Rs. 150 crore from 23 brands IPL Rs. 9 crore SACHIN TENDULKAR BCCI annual contract Rs. 1 crore Match fee Rs. 85 lakh Endorsements Rs. 60 crore from 17 brands. IPL Rs. 9 crore GAUTAM GAMBHIR BCCI annual contract Rs.1 crore Match fee Rs. 94 lakh Endorsements Rs. 5 crore from three brands. IPL Rs.11 crore All information according to India Today of 13 Feb, 2012.

MORNING COFFEE

“Before you believe in yourself, you have to believe yourself.” No matter how often you mentally tell yourself that you’re talented and worthy of respect, it won’t get you anywhere if you don’t believe what you’re telling yourself. The key to creating this belief is to provide yourself with rational support. To build your rationale, list your achievements in life, right back to when you were a child. Write down the successes you have had no matter how insignificant they may seem. Take note of the generosity and love you’ve given to others. Think about how you’ve helped to enhance life, whether through your garden, motherhood or special talents and friendships. Now you can tell yourself you’re special and believe it, because your list is proof! Jane Powell The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company... A church... A home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude....I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you... We are in charge of our attitudes. - Charles Swindoll- Exceptional life If you want to get lost in the crowd, do what has already been done. If you want to have plenty of competition, do only what is easy. If, on the other hand, you wish to stand out from the crowd, listen to your own unique voice. If you wish to be an exceptional leader, be willing to take on the most difficult challenges. Do you want people to pay attention to what you’re saying? Then speak from your heart, and speak the truth in a way that has never been heard before. The way to be truly exceptional is to be yourself. The way to be memorably impressive is to act upon and fulfill your own best intentions. There is real, exceptional greatness already within you. Through your own efforts, with your own commitment and integrity, you can let that greatness flow out from you and into magnificent achievements. You always have the option of living an exceptional life. With your attitude, with your thoughts, with your actions, choose that option now and always. Ralph Marston

BEAUTY IS IN THE SEX OF BEHOLDER

Beauty is in the sex of the beholder Washington: Go to any museum and there will be men and women admiring paintings and sculpture. But it turns out they are thinking about the sight differently. Men process beauty on the right side of their brains, while women use their whole brain to do the job, researchers report in Tuesday’s electronic edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Science. They even explain it differently. Novelist Margaret Wolfe Hungerford: ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. Essayist David Hume: ‘Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them’. Researchers were surprised by the finding. “It is well known that there are differences between brain activity in women and men in cognitive tasks,”said researcher Camilo Cela-Conde of the University of Baleares in Palma de Mallorca,Spain.“However, why should this kind of difference appear in the case of appreciation of beauty?” The answer seems to be that when women consider a visual object they link it to language while men concentrate on the spatial aspects of the object, Cela-Conde said. He noted, however, that this doesn’t explain why — and how — the human capacity to appreciate beauty evolved. The researchers tested 10 men and 10 women, showing them paintings and photos of urban scenes and landscapes, asking them to rate each scene as either “beautiful” or “not beautiful”. At the same time the scientists looked at images of the magnetic fields produced by electrical currents in the brains of the men and women. For first 300 milliseconds, there was no difference between male and female brains, and from 300 to 700 milliseconds activity was greater for objects that were rated as beautiful than for those that were not beautiful. For both sexes the most active region was the parietal lobe that deals with visual perception, spatial orientation and information processing, but it was focused on the right side of the brain in men while both sides participated in women. While there are differences between people as to what is beautiful and what isn’t, Cela-Conde said they did not find identifiable differences related to sex. AP

I'M ALONE , MOST ALONE WITHOUT YOU

I am alone, most alone without You Posted Image Everywhere I see Love, I think of You, Everywhere I hear of Love, I think of You, Every moment I think of Love, I think of You, Every word I read of Love, I think of You, You are not just a person in my life, You are the One I Love the most My Angel, Please Come Back My Angel, I need You the most in my Life.. Posted Image I am selfish, but I need You, I am Bad, but I need You, I am Demon, but I need My Angel, that's You, Ask God, how much I need You, Ask God, how much I plead for You, Ask God, how much I cry to seek You, Its very hard to let you Go, Even for Love I can't let you Go, I am bad, You say me the worst Love ever, But I still need You, its Only You, You are the One I can't imagine to part off, That's how badly I need You in my Life.. Posted Image If My Love is a mistake, I accept it, Scold me, beat me, or pull my hairs, All physical pain I can still bear, The pain in me without you is horrible, Don't go away from me, Please come back, And give me your healing touch, Forgive me Please, forgive me once for everything, and give the meaning to my life.. Life is not as we always think, I will be with you for everything, My Love for you is not a one night stand, I want to be with you for whole of your Life.. Posted Image Go away as far as you want, I am waiting for You, don't know how long, I won't hurt You for anything nor create any problem for You in your life, I just Love You, and its the name I call You, my heart just chants, I wish there could be an instrument to measure my Love, Atleast I could show You how much I Love You.. Posted Image Angel, I Love You so, That I need only You, Believe me My Angel, my Love is true, And I just want it to be for Only You, Life still goes on without You, But it has no meaning of Love without You, Without You I just feel a dead soul, Where are You My Angel, please Come Back, I am alone, most alone without You.. Posted Image

LOVE & BEAUTY

www.DilSeDesi.org Beauty is a mere smile. Love is a smile that warms the heart. Beauty is but skin deep, from outside-in. Love is beauty from inside-out. Beauty changes, fades, decreases over time. Love endures, never fails, is of a timeless dimension. Beauty is in eyes that twinkle in the moonlight. Love is in eyes that speak kindness, patience, concern, day and night. Beauty is a figure, a shape, physical looks that appeal to the senses. Love starts as a feeling, and becomes a sensitizer to the soul. Beauty hates to hear the truth -"You're getting old". Love embraces the truth - "I Love You more the older you get". Beauty is vain-glory, a self-seeking competitor. Love is humility, a self-giving peacemaker. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Love is in the heart of the giver. So, what Foundation is built of Love? I'll give you a hint. It's the same foundation that has preserved marriages, friendships, families for a lifetime. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever, as Love is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Therefore, God is Love, and such relationships are built on a foundation of God's Love. So now, bearing all this in mind............... Is your Foundation built on Love, or is it Beauty?

I want to live in your eyes

I want to live in your eyes, die in your arms and be buried in your heart if i died or travelled far, i’d write ur name on every star,so everyone could look up & see, dat u mean the world 2 me There are a million stars and a million dreams, you are the only star for me, the only dream i dream You can fall from a bridge, you can fall from above, but the best way of falling, is falling in love! Love is like a golden chain that links our hearts together and if you ever break that chain you'll break my heart 4ever How can u tell the rain not 2 fall wen clouds exist? How can u tell the leaves not 2 fall wen the wind exists? How can u tell me not 2 fall in love wen u exist? Romantic one day the moon send 2 me, if your lover makes you cry why don't you leave your lover.. i looked at the moon n replied would you every leave your sky? 8 letters, 3 words, 1 meaning… I LOVE YOU...

GIVE YOURSELF A MOMENT

Give Yourself a Moment

When there's something that needs to be done,
give yourself a moment to do it.
When there's a decision that must be made,
give yourself a moment to think it through.
When life demands a response, give yourself a moment
to find the most positive and meaningful one.
When someone is explaining something to you, give yourself a moment to truly listen and to understand.
Life is made up of many moments, one right after another.


The big outcomes, results and achievements
depend on what you do with all those little moments along the way.
With each moment you can choose to let it pass or
to let it bring you down.
Or, you can decide to make good use of that moment
with positive purpose, value and love.

How many times have you looked back on your life
with regret, and wished you had given yourself a moment to do what could have easily been done?
Now is your opportunity to avoid such future regrets
by recognizing the great value in each moment.
When life is asking something of you, give yourself
a moment to make it right.
And when you add up all those moments,
you'll find you've made life great.

I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU

I Can't Live If Living Is Without You

No, I cant forget this evening
Or your face as you were leaving
But I guess thats just the way this story goes,
You always smile....
But in you eyes your sorrow shows
Yes it shows

No I cant forget tomorrow
When I think of all my sorrows
When I had you there but then I let you go
And now its only fair that I should let you know
What you should know

I cant live
If living is without you
I cant live
I cant give anymore
cant live
If living is without you
cant give,
I cant give anymore

Well, I cant forget this evening
Or your face as you were leaving
But I guess thats just the way this story goes,
You always smile
But in you eyes your sorrow shows
Yes it shows

cant live
If living is without you
I cant live
I cant give anymore
cant live
If living is without you
I cant live,
I cant give anymore

Ohhhhhh(No cant live)
No no no (No I cant live)
I cant live (No cant live)
If living is without (No I cant live)
I cant live (No cant live)
I cant give anymore (No I cant live)

JOKES ON STUDENT

Teacher- PYAR or ISHQ mein kya frk hai?
Stud SirPyarwo hai jo aap apni beti se karte hai.
or ISHQ wo hai jo hum aapki beti se krtey hai


Sir- Tum kal school Q nhi aye
Pappu- Sir mujhe Blud flu ho gya tha
Sir- Blud flu to murgiyo ko hota he
Pappu- Sir ap rozana to murga bnate ho



DAD went school to get son's report card.
BUSY MADAM:Abi nahi
DAD: To phir kab aaun me?
MADAM: Mere periods khatam hone k bad.
DAD: Wowh!

Sir: Achha Insan Wo Hi He Jo Dusro K Kaam
Aaye
Santa: Par Madam
Exam Me Na Aap
Humare Kaam Aati Hai
Aur Na Hi Kisi Aur Ko
Aane Deti Hai.

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Teacher: what do u call a person
who cannot hear anything?
Santa: U can call him anything,
because he cannot hear anything.

Maths Teacher- If U Had
1000Rs In One Pocket And
1000Rs In Other Pocket,
What Wud U Think?
Pappu- I Think Aaj Galti Se
Papa Ki Pent Pahenili :D

Class Rooms r like Train
1st 2 benches r Executive Coaches-Reserved for VIP
Middle 2r Genral Compartment
N Last 2r Sleeper Class


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Tacher: Iss Ko Kyu LaYe Ho?
SANTA: Sir Aap ne hi to Kaha Tha Ki Aap
Gadhe Ko Bhi Insan bana dete ho..

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Life of a student:
PC hai net Nahi,
ATM Hai paise Nahi,
Cell Hai balance Nahi,
EXAM hai tension Nahi,
Padna hai, lekin saala mood Nhi!!

HOME REMEDIES FOR PEELING SKIN

HOME REMEDIES FOR PEELING SKIN


To understand the reasons behind peeling skin one needs to understand the structure of the skin. The skin consists of three basic layers: the outer layer or epidermis, the middle layer or dermis and the inner layer referred to as hypodermis. Each of these layers provides a particular function and is in a continuous state of change. Every 28 days the epidermis, or outer layer of the skin, is completely replaced once. The 28 day change, in the outer cover of the skin, is influenced by various factors such as hydration, friction, sun exposure and various other environmental issues.

Peeling skin is therefore a temporary problem and is known to heal in a few days as the new skin surfaces. Though there are few exceptions such as: in case of infections or medications that cause the skin to peel or a hereditary disorder known as Peeling Skin Syndrome, all of which may require medical consultation to cure peeling skin. Some of the known causes leading to this skin disorder are: excessive perspiration, staph or viral infections, or excessive sun exposure resulting in sunburn. Sunburn is one of the most common causes known that lead to peeling skin. As sunburn heats the top layers of the skin it begins to peel naturally. Therefore, peeling skin is rarely ever considered as a fatal or harmful disorder. One can regain natural skin in a couple of days or a quick visit to the general physician will ensure faster recovery.


Symptoms for Peeling Skin

Some known skin disorders that cause peeling skin symptoms
Peeling skin is a symptom in itself. Certain skin disorders also cause the skin to peel.

Here are some known skin disorders that lead to symptoms of peeling skin:

-Erythroderma, may cause thickening and flaking of the skin.
-Exfoliative dermatitis, causes the skin to flake.
-Hand eczema, lead to rashes and itches on the hands due to increasing use of harsh soaps and detergents.
-Eczema causes chronic skin rash which progresses to skin inflammation and may lead to skin peeling
-Psoriasis surfaces on the skin by scaling and inflammation of the skin causing it to peel
-Ichthyosis is a rare disease caused mainly due to dryness, the resulting roughness leads to scaly fish-like skin
-Kawasaki disease, a disorder usually found among in infants and young children causes rash and swelling of the hands.
-Scarlet fever sometimes causes rashes over the upper body which spreads through the entire body.
-Vitamin A overdose shows symptoms of skin peeling.


Causes for Peeling Skin

Probable causes other than skin disorders that lead to peeling skin
Various skin disorders or medical conditions may lead to peeling skin as a symptom.

Here is a compilation of the most probable causes other than skin disorders that lead to peeling skin:

-Heavy perspiration due to tight gloves or boots
-Certain blisters contain fluid between the two layers of skin. When the blister breaks it leaves the skin open to be peeled.
-Rashes may cause skin peeling
-Dry skin and extreme cold weather can make the skin peel.
-Sunburn is a commonly known reason for skin peeling -Allergy to specific chemicals or irritation from chemicals can cause skin peeling.
-TEN (Toxic Epidermal Necrolysis) or blisters which cover the whole body, is a rare disease that causes the skin to peel.
-The Peeling Skin Syndrome or Skin Peeling Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that causes continuous skin peeling may also be a probable cause.


Home Remedies to cure peeling skin
Nature care has some helpful remedies to provide immediate relief and for continuous use to make the skin prevent disorders such as peeling skin.

Here is a compilation of some such known home remedies that one can use for curing peeling skin. It is important to note that if desirable results are not achieved it is wise to consult a physician.

-Grated cucumber applied over the affected areas for 15-20 minutes has been found to be effective especially for the skin on the face. Regular application prevents dryness of the skin.
-Applying the juice of fresh mint every night on affected areas of the skin can help prevent dryness. It is also a suggested remedy for eczema and dermatitis.
-Honey, olive oil and a mixture of turmeric and sandalwood paste are very effective in rejuvenating dry, parched skin

Diet for Peeling Skin
Replenish essential vitamins to deal with Peeling Skin
Diet plays a very important part in nurturing a healthy skin. Skin disorders usually surface due to diet inconsistencies. This can be avoided by having a healthy and nutritional diet that nourishes the skin and keeps disorders at bay.

A good diet must include important nutrients for the well-being of the body. It must include protein, carbohydrates, fats, essential fatty acids, and all essential vitamins and minerals.
Peeling of the skin is sometimes caused due to deficiency in Vitamin A, Iron, Iodine or Vitamin B. While proteins and Vitamin C, prevent infections and accelerate healing. Replenish the skin with these basic essentials by including them as part of the regular diet.

Here is a list of sources of these essentials vitamins:

Vitamin Sources
Vitamin A: Cream, butter, fish liver oils, eggs, carrots
Vitamin B: Meat, yeast, unpolished cereal grains, liver, eggs, cheese, milk.
Vitamin C: Citrus fruits, green peppers and tomatoes
Proteins: Meat, fish, cereals, dairy products, nuts, lentils, pulses and some vegetables.
Iron: Red meat, almonds, baked beans, broccoli, kidney beans, peas, raisins, rice etc


Other Suggestions for Peeling Skin
Dos and Donts of Peeling Skin
Some simple situations best avoided can accelerate healing.

Here is a compilation of the certain preferred and most avoidable situations one can note when faced with peeling skin:

Do’s
-One may snip loose ends of the peeling skin but avoid cutting skin bound to the skin.
-Moisturizing peeling skin may help. Soothe dry the peeling skin and moisturize it with any good moisturizing cream or lotion.
-For all-over peeling, a soak in an oatmeal bath is a helpful remedy.
-Drink plenty of water about 10-12 glasses a day.
-Use sunscreens when out in the sun.
-Use mild soaps instead of strong and harsh soaps

Don’ts:
-Resist the temptation to pick or scratch the peeling skin .It may damage the skin further.
-Avoid taking a hot water bath as it drains the skin of its natural oils. Warms baths are milder and causes less damage to the skin.
-Stay out of the sun during Peek UV Radiation times such as: during mid day 11.00am-2.00pm.

Home Remedies to Get Rid of Flies

Home Remedies to Get Rid of Flies

Home Remedies to Get Rid of Flies
Leave the kitchen door ajar or windows wide open, and you could face the irritating buzz of a couple of unwanted friends. Flies are pesky insects that torment you in the middle of the night and land on your food – ruining your appetite at the very least and spreading diseases at the most. Before you buy sticky strips and chemical sprays, consider fighting back with a couple of home remedies to get rid of flies.

FLY HOME REMEDIES
Getting rid of flies is important because they aren’t the cleanest of creatures. For example, houseflies can spread about 200 pathogens and parasites to humans [1]. To get rid of flies, consider the following remedies for flies:

a) Cayenne Pepper:
Add cayenne pepper to a spray bottle and fill with water. Halfway through, shake the bottle to make sure the cayenne pepper dissolves in the water. Around the house, spray the corners and cracks to get rid of flies.

b) Apple Cider Vinegar:
Fill a small cup with a mixture of apple cider vinegar and lemon-scented dishwashing liquid. The aroma and sweet scent of the contents will attract flies. When they come to investigate, they often get too close and drown in the liquid. Hopefully, this will help you decrease the number of flies in your home.

c) Plant and Herbs:
Flies tend to stay away from places where marigolds, lavender, basil or mint are growing. Plant items offensive to flies around the house and in windowsill boxes.

d) Put a Lid on It:
Flies follow the scent of garbage; therefore it is in your best interest to keep lids sealed tightly on your indoor and outdoor garbage cans.

e) Homemade Flypaper:
No need to waste your money on flypaper when you can make your own. The materials you’ll need is a brown paper bag, scissors, string, ½ cup of sweet maple syrup, two tablespoons of brown sugar, two tablespoons of white sugar, and a shallow pan. Combine the syrup and sugars together in a shallow pan. Cut the paper bag into 1-inch wide strips. In the top of each strip, poke a hole. Thread a string through each hole. Soak the strips in the sugary mixture for about eight hours. After removing the strips from the mixture, hang them in an area where flies frequent after they stop dripping.

f) Clean Up Animal Feces:
One of the biggest things to attract flies is animal feces. If you own a cat or dog that does their business outside, it’s especially important that you keep your outdoor spaces free of poop. Make sure to bury feces in the backyard, flush down the toilet, or seal in bags placed deep in a trash can to get rid of flies that may try to enter your home.

g) Plastic Bags:
Sounds odd, but some people have been able to get rid of flies by hanging clear plastic bags of water near outdoor entryways. This home remedy takes advantage of the poor eyesight and natural behavior of flies. Clear bags of water catch light, which actually mimics the appearance of a spider’s web. Others believe that the water causes the fly to feel disoriented, and can be used to repel and get rid of flies. Fill gallon-size bags of water halfway full and suspend the bags close to entryways, garage doors, and places where flies gather.

h) Old CDs:
Working in the same manner as the bag of water method, hang a couple of old CDs by the entrance of a door to discourage flies from entering your home.

i) Cinnamon:
Flies seem not to like the scent of cinnamon, which would make a good choice for air fresheners.

j) Dishwashing Liquid:
Mix two tablespoons of dishwashing liquid with water in a spray bottle and gently shake to blend. Whenever you see a fly, spray it. The soap will coat their wings and make it hard for them to fly. This home remedy is good for households with children and pets since it does not contain harmful chemicals.

Did You Know...

Did You Know...


If you are right handed, you will tend to chew your food on the right side of your mouth. If you are left handed, you will tend to chew your food on the left side of your mouth.
To make half a kilo of honey, bees must collect nectar from over 2 million individual flowers.
Heroin is the brand name of morphine once marketed by 'Bayer'.
Tourists visiting Iceland should know that tipping at a restaurant is considered an insult!
People in nudist colonies play volleyball more than any other sport.
Albert Einstein was offered the presidency of Israel in 1952, but he declined.
Astronauts can't belch - there is no gravity to separate liquid from gas in their stomachs.
Ancient Roman, Chinese and German societies often used urine as mouthwash.
The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows. In the Renaissance era, it was fashion to shave them off!
Because of the speed at which Earth moves around the Sun, it is impossible for a solar eclipse to last more than 7 minutes and 58 seconds.
The night of January 20 is "Saint Agnes's Eve", which is regarded as a time when a young woman dreams of her future husband.
Google is actually the common name for a number with a million zeros.
It takes glass one million years to decompose, which means it never wears out and can be recycled an infinite amount of times!
Gold is the only metal that doesn't rust, even if it's buried in the ground for thousands of years.
Your tongue is the only muscle in your body that is attached at only one end.
If you stop getting thirsty, you need to drink more water. When a human body is dehydrated, its thirst mechanism shuts off.
Each year 2,000,000 smokers either quit smoking or die of tobacco-related diseases.
Zero is the only number that cannot be represented by Roman numerals.
Kites were used in the American Civil War to deliver letters and newspapers.
The song, Auld Lang Syne, is sung at the stroke of midnight in almost every English-speaking country in the world to bring in the new year.
Drinking water after eating reduces the acid in your mouth by 61 percent.
Peanut oil is used for cooking in submarines because it doesn't smoke unless it's heated above 450°F.
The roar that we hear when we place a seashell next to our ear is not the ocean, but rather the sound of blood surging through the veins in the ear.
Nine out of every ten living things live in the ocean.
The banana cannot reproduce itself. It can be propagated only by the hand of man.
Airports at higher altitudes require a longer airstrip due to lower air density.
The University of Alaska spans four time zones.
The tooth is the only part of the human body that cannot heal itself.
In ancient Greece, tossing an apple to a girl was a traditional proposal of marriage. Catching it meant she accepted.
Warner Communications paid $28 million for the copyright to the song Happy Birthday.
Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.
A comet's tail always points away from the sun.
Caffeine increases the power of aspirin and other painkillers, that is why it is found in some medicines.
The military salute is a motion that evolved from medieval times, when knights in armor raised their visors to reveal their identity.
If you get into the bottom of a well or a tall chimney and look up, you can see stars, even in the middle of the day.
When a person dies, hearing is the last sense to go. The first sense lost is sight.
In ancient times strangers shook hands to show that they were unarmed.
Strawberries are the only fruits whose seeds grow on the outside.
Avocados have the highest calories of any fruit at 167 calories per hundred grams.
The moon moves about two inches away from the Earth each year.
The Earth gets 100 tons heavier every day due to falling space dust.
Due to earth's gravity it is impossible for mountains to be higher than 15,000 meters.
Mickey Mouse is known as "Topolino" in Italy.
Soldiers do not march in step when going across bridges because they could set up a vibration which could be sufficient to knock the bridge down.
Everything weighs one percent less at the equator.
For every extra kilogram carried on a space flight, 530 kg of excess fuel are needed at lift-off.
The letter J does not appear anywhere on the periodic table of the elements.
And last but not least:
In 2011, July has 5 Fridays, 5 Saturdays, and 5 Sundays. This apparently happens once every 823 years! This is called 'money bags'.

Why I Love Being a Woman!

Why I Love Being a Woman!

The best bit about being a woman is wielding the power to create and nurture while enjoying the thought of being a beautiful creation herself


THE thrill is not just in being a woman, but being a woman in the right century! And in this day and age, there cannot be many women, who do not revel in their sheer femininity and absolute power! As we all know, femininity and power, far from being mutually exclusive, are two sides of the same coin. Think Shakti, the divine, feminine, creative power! The Power responsible not just for all creation, but the agent of all change as well.

I cannot believe any woman not feeling this great sense of empowerment and well-being that springs from within. The power to create, nurture and heal that is a part of her very being, endows her with unique abilities, positioning her as the centre of all existence and change around her.

When Lord Byron wrote She walks in beauty, I’m sure he talked not just of the grace and deport of a woman, but was able to pierce through to her very core, which provides the majestic aura she walks within. To me, every woman who is allowed to grow unfettered, exercising her free will, is bound to walk in beauty!

What is it that a woman enjoys the most about being the fairer sex? I would say her ability to revel in her power, as much as the freedom to indulge her weakness. She is admired for being strong and loved for being frail and helpless; she can rave and rant when crazed with anger, and the next minute melt into a puddle of helpless love. She can enjoy her many moods and feminine aspects without having to abide by adages or the need to be strong all the time. A woman’s intuitive understanding of life and relationships, and her role as the great bonding factor in a family are unique strengths that she does not share with the opposite sex.

The depths of passion in her eyes, the wealth of caring in her heart, the power of resilience, of survival are all qualities a woman enjoys, growing more beautiful and understanding with the years.

As usual, my Facebook friends (I appealed to only women) had interesting insights to share. Each one of them loves being a woman and with one exception, they all want to be reborn female! Madhulika Dash applauds a woman’s “sense of compassion…... and the ability to infuse life into whatever we touch...”; Anjali Bhargava says, “The sheer strength a woman has… epitomises the completeness in a being. I revel in the sensuous, intoxicating power of being a woman!” Deepika Sahu wouldn’t trade her world as a woman for anything else — a world “so very full of colours, variety, ability/desire to give without calculating, love, sensuality, tenderness, sensitivity… and of course gorgeous men who make me feel like a queen!”

Pramila Maheshwari quips, “Shiva or Sati? Always the fairer one is the choice — she is happening, life, creation, nurturing — all activity is at her end.” Madhu Kamath says, “We are an unprecedented intricate, beautiful and unique piece of creation!!” Harmesh Khanna loves the “fact that we don’t have to hide our feelings or keep a stiff upper lip at all times...our ability to keep going in the toughest of times ...of being ourselves, of getting pampered.”

If you need to hear what the stars say, Katrina Kaif loves the fact that she can be “soft and feminine and yet a successful working woman”, Sonam Kapoor loves being a woman because of “the ability to create life.” Marilyn Monroe said, “I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.”

A naughty friend says, “Chuck all that, I love the fact that I can get the strongest man down to his knees in a puddle of desire if I set my mind to it. Why would I want to be that man!”

Why indeed! And to support her, here we have it from the Father of all politicians — wily statesman Chanakya, “The world’s biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman!”

LOVE OF FEAR

Love of fear

Hammering heart, increased awareness, sharper senses and greater intuition — in short, this sense of fear gives us an instant rush of adrenaline

HOW we love scaring ourselves silly! From a love of horror films to visiting spooky places; from extreme sports and endurance tests to vacations spent prowling around reserved forest areas, searching for animals in the wild; from recounting horror stories to speeding beyond reason — we do love our thrills!
Recently, arriving on holiday at a resort, we believed our cottage surrounded by a dense jungle, assailed as we were by the deafening sound of chirping crickets and croaking frogs. Tentatively, we stepped onto the balcony late at night, and sat in trepidation for hours, straining to hear a jungle call, a rustle in the thicket or the whisper of a slither in the grass. The glow from fireflies seemed like eyes watching us from the foliage as we scared each other with stories of reported sightings and hungry leopards snatching away babies for a tasty snack.
Having whipped ourselves into frenzied fear, though still not having seen so much as a jungle cat or a stray dog, adrenaline levels high, we retired satisfied for the night, hoping to be woken by a deafening roar or the jungle call of lesser animals as they sighted a leopard. What we heard next was the crowing of a cock at our window early morning and the chirping of what seemed like a thousand different birds. City ears unused to Nature’s symphony, we peeped out expecting a dewy jungle waking up to the morning.
What greeted us instead was a domesticated scene, a garden tended to look like a jungle, anthuriums and lilies planted in a haphazard fashion to give the semblance of a wild growth and a solid fencing that protected us from the dense jungle beyond. You would expect the first feeling to be relief — but no, we were disappointed, disillusioned, embarrassed and irritated! We realised we actually wished to feel scared and vulnerable and that was half the fun of the holiday! We knew the next night wouldn’t be half as exciting as the previous one, knowing ourselves safe from the wild…
What is it about fear that seduces us so effectively? Why do we love scaring ourselves, even engaging in challenges to our safety and life? If you are the kind to savour a hammering-heart-sweaty-palm experience, you are sure to find yourself your little thrills. People who don’t look for overt danger as in games, rides or drives, often involve themselves in self-destructive relationships or even manage to court the possibility of heart attacks through dabbling in the financial markets!
All this for the love of scaring yourself out of your skin! Consider this — the hammering heart, increased awareness, sharper senses and greater intuition — in short, the sense of fear gives us an instant rush of adrenaline. In a dangerous situation, opine experts, our physical and mental strength increases as we equip ourselves to face the danger. And this certainly boosts our confidence along with an increased sense of well-being when we perceive ourselves to have dealt with and got over the danger.

People who love getting scared are classified by Frank Farley, former president of the American Psychological Association as Type T Personalities, or thrill-seeking personalities. “They thrive on the uncertainty and the intensity associated with activities that most people consider to be hair-raising — there’s almost nothing else, including sex, that can match it in terms of the incredible sensory experience that the body is put through,” he says.
Surprisingly, whether the threat is real or perceived doesn’t seem to matter. And, whether we are dealing with a real robber or watching a horror film, or prowling a forest in search of danger, the way we react to the situation remains the same because our hormonal reaction is the same. This love of fear is surely a throwback to primitive times, when our basic instincts at the first sign of danger were ‘fight or flight’ and all our senses came to our rescue for our very survival. The experience of danger we court goes as far back as that and is not likely to desert us any time soon. So why wouldn’t we love to tease those hormonal levels within a secure, controlled environment such as a scary film, which we know must end with a resolution, or a sky dive that assures us a safe return? Or, yes, even a scary evening on a balcony where the fear is more imagined, than real?
Although it may help stoke the fear factor to know that often we can be mistaken about how safe we really are. Coming back to the balcony episode, as it happened, we discovered later that as we sat wrapped in imaginary fear, it wasn’t all that unreal after all… Wild tuskers had indeed broken into the premises the same night and taken off with, of all the things, the jackfruits!
And the next morning had one of our slithery friends cross our path nonchalantly… Amongst the shrieks and thundering hearts, our day was made!

Give Up To Be Happy

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy


Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:

“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.